The Power of Letting Go

Originally posted on on July 16, 2014

by Kristen McElveen, ND


One thing I have noticed lately, both in myself, and in my patients, is that we are all our worst enemies when trying to heal.

We blame circumstances, or people, or politics for being unhappy where we are. 

We use the excuses, "if I wasn't sick," or "if I wasn't grieving," or "if I hadn't lost my job."

But really, once we learn to let go and truly embrace the ride that is life, we are able to find peace. We may not have the power to control what happens to us or around us, but we DO have the power to control how we react to things and how we let them affect us. 

In my own struggles of not feeling good enough, smart enough, or successful enough in my own life, I am finally finding peace in the teachings of Panache Desai and have been recommending him to everyone I meet who is struggling with pain, grief, anxiety, fear or illness. He states it simply, "You. Are. Enough." In my lesson from him today, he discussed life as a river or a roller coaster and this resonated will me deeply. We are, in fact, the expression of the Divine just as ourselves. We are the miracle just as we are. We are love. That's it! That is the answer!

There is a big shift happening right now and everyone can feel it. I started feeling it several years ago when I had my own health crisis. I wasn't sure what was happening to me. I was completely engulfed in fear, which was expressed physically as anxiety and anger. I was a victim of my circumstances. I was doctor! Why couldn't I fix myself and move on? Why couldn't 30 of the smartest doctors I knew fix me? I was just taking baby steps because I did not trust that things would be ok. My fear smothered my trust in the universe and I spent most of my time worrying about things that likely would never happen or by blaming other circumstances. I couldn't eat. I couldn't sleep. At times, I couldn't breathe. I felt like I was giving everything to my job, my friends, my family and I had no more energy to take for myself. 

Then I realized, the universe and its endless.

There is never a lack of energy because zero energy in an energetic world simply doesn't exist. There are blockages and lower vibrations and densities, but the energy and light and movement is always there. We just have to accept it. Be open to it. Let it flow through us and nourish us when we are weak.

We are never alone. We are all connected. 

I was wrought with guilt and shame and fear because there were some people I just couldn't "fix," myself included. Then, I had a breakthrough. I realized that I am not the one doing the healing. I am simply the guide to help people heal themselves. It's not about me. It's about them. They too are blocked by their own fears and shame and circumstances. They are being held down by their own inability to let go. Even the ones who are desperate to get better. They are holding onto that river bank, fighting the current with every ounce of their being, exhausted from the constant struggle. 

But tell me, what happens if you just...let go?

What happens if you not only accept your fears or shame or illnesses, but embrace them?

They are part of you and you have the power to loosen their grip on your existence and simply BE YOU. You are not fear. You are not illness. Those things do not define you. They are part of you. Part of the river that is life. And they are to be loved too.

You can fight it. Let it dominate you. Let it exhaust you. And eventually, let it defeat you. can let it flow around you until it's just the waves lapping along with you and carrying YOU down the river to your next experience.

All you have to do is be. And accept the energy and light readily available to you from the universe.

You don't have to fight. You don't have to struggle.

Just let go. 

And notice that when your spiritual and emotional pain is less, so too is your physical pain. You can breathe again. You can laugh again. You can forget your illness, even if just for a moment, because YOU ARE NOT YOUR ILLNESS. You are just you. You are perfect as your are.

Whether you see the Divine as a specific God, or nature, or the universe, meditation and prayer is the key to unlock these things holding you down. This connection to the light and energy is what keeps you connected so you are never alone.

If you are searching for ways to start meditating, or have tried meditation and it just didn't work, that's ok. Like everything, it takes practice. Just keep trying and I promise you, it will be the best thing you can do for your wellbeing. 

Here are some great places to start (no affiliations):

  • Panache Desai - website, book, guided meditations, affirmations and regular free, live telecasts
  • Chopra Center Meditation - offers free 21-day meditation challenges as well as a variety of meditation bundles you can purchase
  • Ananda App - an app for your smartphone or tablet offering free and purchased guided meditations from the Chopra Center
  • Headspace - an app for your smartphone or tablet to help teach you how to meditate
  • Brené Brown, PhD - author, researcher, professor and social worker - her work is based on embracing vulnerability, shame, courage and self-worth.

Let me know how your journey goes. 

If you are ever in crisis and need someone to talk to, don't hesitate to call The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255